Preparing for your Bridal Hair Trial

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Just like a wedding rehearsal, a bridal hair trial is absolutely necessary for beautiful wedding day hair!  There are some simple steps you can take to make sure it goes smoothly – follow the 10 tips below for success:

1)    Allow enough time for your appointment: about 60-90 minutes.  Do not plan your Bridal Trial on a day you have another event or other important obligations to get to immediately afterwards.   This is a time to practice and experiment with different styles.

2)    Bring Pictures: Start by checking out Bridal magazines for pictures of styles you prefer.   Be sure to look for pictures with hair texture and color that are similar to your own so that your stylist will have a reference point.  This also helps to create a clear picture of your vision.  Narrow your choices down to 5 images or less.

3)    Bring any hair accessories: including your tiara, flower veil, and/or hair adornments, etc. that you plan to wear on your big day.

4)    Bring pictures of your dress, flowers, wedding style, etc. this will help to create a full picture of the type of look you are going for.  This information will aid the stylist in finding a look which best suites the style of your dress along with your face shape, hair color, and texture.

5)    Come with your hair clean and dry: don’t waste your time with the stylist by having your hair blown dry during the appointment – you could be spending that time creating a style.

6)    Do not use a flat-iron on the day of your trial if you plan on a curly style:  the way you prepare your hair for your trial is the way you will need to prepare your hair on the morning of your wedding day.  For example, if your hair is curly and you go to your trial with it blown out straight keep in mind that is the way you will need to have your hair on the morning of your wedding. These things need to be discussed and decided on ahead of time with your stylist.

7)    Wear a shirt with a neckline and color that are similar to your dress:  you’ll be able to see how your hair style will fall on or around it. 

8)    Bring only one trusted person along with you: someone whose opinion you value is appropriate; bringing too many people along can cause confusion and chaos.

9)    Don’t focus on flyaway and frizz: the trial is a rough draft of your final style.   It is a time to create a look that works for you on your special day.  Make sure you use your trial appointment time wisely – don’t focus on things that  will be perfected on the day of your wedding.

10) Be open to suggestions and working with your stylist to find the best look!

Stocks and Bonds and Hair?

Most people have some sort of investments right? Maybe a 401k at work, or an IRA – basically some kind of account that makes money work for you by earning interest, dividends, etc. Now these types of accounts can be complicated – there are a lot of options which all yield different results. Assuming you know what result you want, how do you make the decisions that will get you there? Do you go to a Financial Advisor, or rely on another financial professional to guide you in these decisions – or maybe even to manage the account for you? All signs point to Yes!

Now, if your account has been looking good /outperforming the market and all that, you don’t tell them to move all of your money out of stocks and into bonds do you? I don’t think so. So why would you tell your hairstylist how to do her job? A hairstylist, just like a Financial Advisor, spends all day/every day doing just that one thing, concentrating on only that which they are paid do to – that which they have been trained to do! For me, it’s HAIR. That is my all day/every day. It’s what I do, what I study, what I have experience in, what I focus on, and strive to know all that I can about. So why, why would someone who spends their all day/every day doing something (other than hair) try to tell me how to do my job differently? Because they do, all the time, and I just don’t get it LOL!

If you really want to help your stylist, feel free to pick out a picture of the end result you want to get to. Sometimes a picture is worth a thousand words! However, you do need to start by finding one that is already within the realm of your hairs natural characteristics. For example wavy hair = wavy style, straight hair = straight style, unless you really want a dramatic change and are ready for the steps (yes steps, not all things can be achieved in one appt.) to get your hair there. For example, if you have naturally curly brown hair don’t pick out a picture of a pin straight blonde unless you are prepared for some steps to get it there and a lot of timely maintenance to keep it looking good too.

Trust in the professionals that you hire and work with them so that they can help you to meet your goals. If for some reason what you want can’t be done, I am sure they’ll have other recommendations or suggestions that you can both be happy with in the end!

If not, you can always count on Social Security and wigs as a plan B right?! Ha!!!

All my best,

Melissa

Timing is Everything

After saying “yes” the calendar can become your worst enemy or your best friend. It’s up to you!  Here’s some sage advice on how to be sure you get the vendors you want on your special day.  Complete with a horror story on what not to do!

A bridal hair trial is an important step in selecting your stylist.  You may decide to do a few bridal trials or you may do only one and then want to book that vendor.  In most cases, they will provide you with a contract and ask that you send it back, along with a deposit, to hold your wedding date.   Read the contract carefully!  There will be important instructions and dates to pay particular attention to.  For example, the Westchester Hair-Stylist contract states you have one week to return the contract with your deposit in order to hold your wedding date. 

In the past, I would offer to let a bride know if someone else inquired about booking the same date.  This was a courtesy I extended only during the week the contract was out.  If a signed contract and deposit wasn’t received within the week their date would be released, meaning another bride could book it.  This is a courtesy I no longer offer. 

True story – I did a bridal hair trial and was asked for a contract.  A contract was given with the instructions they had to return it signed and with their deposit within one week.  I didn’t receive any other inquires for that date while the contract was out that week, but I didn’t receive the contract back either.  As a courtesy, I followed up with the bride on the contract after the week was up.  I was told the contract and check was sent, so I allowed an additional week as an extension.  The second week passed and still the contract and check were never received in the mail.  I followed up with the bride again, as another courtesy, and was told they would stop payment on the original check then send another one.  I verified my mailing address and info with her.  Several more weeks passed and I never received a signed contract or a check.  Other inquiries came in for the same date.  I was no longer under any obligation to hold the date so another wedding was booked in its place.  In total, almost a month had passed before the bride called back to follow up. At that time I advised her the date had been booked by someone else.  This bride claimed I was to call her if anyone else wanted her date.  I advised that was only done as a courtesy during the week that the contract was out.  Once that week is up I can no longer hold the date, or advise her of every inquiry I receive for the same date.  This was stated clearly in the contract.  Unfortunately she was unsatisfied but if she had read the contract clearly she would have understood.

Vendors who work with weddings in your local area are most likely being approached by numerous brides for the exact same dates.  There are only so many weekends!  Be vigilant about getting contracts and deposits back to your suppliers, as well as updating them on any changes to location(s) where services are to be provided, dates, and times.  Be sure to read over all correspondence and ask a friend or family member to do the same if you’re getting overwhelmed.  Another set of eyes on a contract may pick up an important detail you might have missed! 

Last but not least, keep an eye on the calendar, keep detailed records of every vendor you talk to, and be sure they have confirmed back to you on receiving any contracts and/or deposits you’ve sent to book them for your date.  If it’s all just too much hire a wedding planner – you can always blame them in the end! LOL

All my best,

Melissa

Have Hair Will Travel

Packing is a chore, but if you plan ahead it will go smoother. If you are headed to an island include a hat for cover, hair sunscreen, and extra conditioner along with your other beach necessities. Also be sure to remember your frizz serum, oil, pomade, etc. and you’ll never have a “Monica” moment on an island again!

If you’re off to a colder climate instead, pack tight fitting hats and pony tail holders to keep your ends protected from winds and freezing temps. A pony tail, without the ends pulled through, can help protect them when wearing a hat. Same goes if you’re doing some motorized sports – keep those ends from whipping in the wind!

My biggest travel gripe? Hotel hair dryers! I mean really, what good are they? Has anyone ever stayed in a hotel that had a legitimate dryer?! If so, please chime in through comments and let me know! In my experience, they either suck your hair into the back where they chew it up until it burns OR they won’t dry at all! You have no hope of a nozzle attachment or diffuser lying around, as if you’d even want to touch your own hair with it anyway LOL! So always pack your hairdryer or look into a good quality travel size dryer.

Last but not least, are there EVER enough outlets or even one in front of a mirror? I doubt it.

Quick tips:

A microfiber hair towel is a good choice to bring along as it will help speed up the drying process and is light enough to fit into almost any bag!

An outlet adapter can help in a pinch – some can turn one plug into six!

Don’t touch your hair while on the flight, it will make it dirty faster. A loose fitting hat, one that won’t give you “hat hair”, can also act like a barrier to keep your hair fresh.

A twist, braid, or pony are great travel style options too! They always look good and if you do a high pony you can let it down when you land for extra body, or take that braid out for some kinky curls.

A small amount of dry shampoo, baby powder, or even corn starch is great to take along on overnight or extended flights. About 30 min. before landing brush some through your hair to absorb excess oil and to add some extra volume.

If you keep a small hand lotion in your purse you can also use it to calm light frizz and flyaways before all of your beauty essentials are unpacked and accessible.

Safe travels,

Melissa